There was a point in my journey of survival when I became comfortable with using the term I can’t, for in the beginning, I couldn’t. To be truly honest with you I became lazy with my wife tending to my every need, I was so consumed with my own afflictions that I became blind to hers, which were born from mine. When one gives much of him or herself to aid another one can become sick themselves while doing so, for who will tend to their needs? Anxiety, a feeling of uneasiness, nervousness, worry, dread, intimidation, unease, or something with an uncertain outcome. My wife’s anxiety stemmed from not only my needs but the needs of others as well, as she looks after everyone but herself. My wife looks after the kids, the grandchildren, the needy husband, the bills, and the upkeep of our home. One day I was entertaining thoughts of how I was going to make my wife’s life less stressful, how I was going to make her situation more suitable for the betterment of her health. As I contemplated on how I was going to make these thoughts come to fruition I got a phone call from a very good friend of mine, Derrick Jennings.….
“What’s up Dame?”
“Nothing, sitting here trying to get out of bed.”
“Dame, you know that I have nothing but love and respect for you, but as your true friend I have to express my concerns on how you are going about your recovery. Your wife has done her part, and the Lord continues to do his, it is now time for you to do yours!”
Me: (slight pause)
“You do not know how much I needed to hear that, especially coming from someone that I love and respect. I appreciate your honesty as well as your concern, but I am going to have to call you back.”
“Because I have to take care of my wife now!”
“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.”
1 Corinthians 7:14
Husband And Wife…..